Once upon a time, you were confident. Children start out that way. It’s what enables them to reach for a hand or flat surface to pull themselves up to standing when they’re just beginning to walk. It’s how they play and learn
and grow. Visit any playground, and you’ll see this kind of confidence in action in a thousand different ways.
Sadly, confidence isn’t a constant thing. We’re never entirely, fully confident. So, while we might find the courage to ask out that special someone, we might find this same confidence faltering when we think about asking them to marry us after months of dating. Or we’re confident enough to do well on the job interview but lack the confidence to ask for a raise even though we’ve been at the job a while now and know we deserve it. A lot of times this is because something along the way has shaken our confidence, if not broken it outright.
When you think of someone confident, what do you see?
You probably see someone with a certain set of traits including several, if not all the items from this list:
• They have an absolute, set belief in themselves
• They consider themselves capable of handling the situation they’re in
• They expect success when they begin a new task
• When they speak, they mean what they say
• They hold themselves in a way that looks natural but full of strength
• They seem comfortable in their own skin
• At the same time, they’re not overbearing or cocky in their attitude
• They take risks
• They don’t miss out on fresh opportunities